I am a married man with four daughters. The male member only my immediate family (my brother) lives lives in Africa. I work in a market dom...
I am a married man with four daughters. The male member only my immediate family (my brother) lives lives in Africa. I work in a market dominated by women (psychology) and the only male animal that lives in our area of the house, outside of me is a cat. What I mean is, I'm surrounded by women. And it's amazing.
In our society, the value of masculine traits of trust, rationality, independence and self-respect. Overall, however, diagnosed a few mental illness, women are much more likely than men to be diagnosed. For example, women are twice as likely as men to be diagnosed with clinical depression. In our society, feelings of inadequacy, doubts and emotional weaknesses or signs are viewed from mental health problems.
many women great psychologists, however, have presented arguments that these problems exist in society, not in women. In other words, it is our view of women who have Fashion psychological problems the problem, not which are somehow predisposed biologically. Psychologists like Carol Gilligan and Jean Baker Miller argues convincingly that the strengths of women often perceived as weakness.
One of the strengths of the acceptance of women of their vulnerability. While as always presented in their abilities the ideal person confident women are more likely to experience in a position with the sense of vulnerability and deal with. As Jean Baker Miller, are all times in our lives where our capacity for the tasks at hand is not sufficient. Men often feel pressured to deny their weaknesses and instead bring anger or frustration over the situation expressed.
Miller said that women can say. "I feel weak, but I intend to spend" This demonstrates "a large force, a form of energy, which is particularly difficult for men." be able to admit the weaknesses and vulnerabilities women to be more resistant in difficult situations to be better prepared for the complex and difficult situations.
Another point of the strong woman is their commitment to the development of others. Carol Gilligan calls it an ethics of care and responsibility. Looking found Gilligan, that people describe in terms of features and independence of other staff. In fact, even if they were talking about relationships, they tend to talk about their individual characteristics in their relationships. They saw the goal of human development to be independent living and self-realization.
However, women tend to describe themselves in terms of their relationships. They tend to see their lives in terms of how were harmonious relationships. It is described in terms of how they treated others. They saw the goal of human development, as more and more mature and care as well as the abandonment of selfish purposes for the benefit of all.
to take care of this concern for others is evident around in my life with the women around me. Since my wife, my mother and grandmother, has always been a focus on what they can do to heal, and to maintain them. Although these tasks are often "small" regarded by society as tasks that are the glue that holds society together.
To see the difference in how the value of this ethic of care in relation to the implementation, watching only the inequality of compensation of professions that we could consider increasing into consideration. Professions such as social education services, care and are less likely to pay. On the other hand, we have occupations that require a commitment to personal success as Economic and Financial rewards high.
An important final strength of women commitment to cooperation. In the government shutdown in 2013, the policy has prompted the government to close because they can not or do not want to make concessions. The work to solve problems, was carried out by the senators, helped the men to find a way to cooperate and compromise. To talk John McCain later on the way through the impasse between the political parties, he said, "Leadership, I have to fully realize it is made mainly of women in the Senate are available."
Senator Susan Collins (R-Maine) said: "I do not think it is a coincidence that women were so involved in trying to end Despite the scale of the ideological spectrum of this impasse, we are used to working in cooperation. . "the ability and willingness to cooperate with those who do not agree, a great strength of women in our community. This example also highlights the importance of women in positions of power and political influence.
Of course this is only a small part of what can and should be said about the strengths of women. We must have a greater respect for feminine forces in our lives so much, both personally and collectively. We must be careful not to interpret the strengths of women as weak wrong just because they are different from men. Maybe we could even up to the point where you run, throw, or to act "like a girl" can be an excellent complement.
Matthew Whoolery has a doctorate in psychology and is a professor at Brigham - Young - University of Idaho. You can e - can be contacted at drwhool ery@gmail.com mail.
