By Beverly Flaxington of Cut off in traffic. They tell you what to do. They do not follow. They are strong, unpleasant or too quiet and r...
By Beverly Flaxington of
Cut off in traffic. They tell you what to do. They do not follow. They are strong, unpleasant or too quiet and reserved. They make inappropriate comments. They talk behind your back.
Who are you?
Difficult.
These are the people in your life that just on my nerves! Something that goes out and you are nervous or angry as a result. You know the signs - narrow belly, white fingers on the steering wheel voice in your head about what you mean to complain. They take a very good day and make sour.
Stubborn have much control. You do not want that because you really do not want to give them the time of day, but the truth is that sometimes feelings and reactions. Depending on the circumstances, it must be given the most difficult. And they are everywhere: you can work with them, could marry into a family with them, you can in your own family. You will not leave you alone.
It's time to take your life and exercise their personal power to say "no" automatic trigger for these people. What steps can you get on the impact to get rid of is hard in your life and well-being? You tried to change and not to work. You can the way they are, and do not see the need to do something else. The only thing you can control - and where the power is - is your reaction to it. If you do not respond, as he always does, the situation will change.
1. What - what do you shoot?
First, identify what triggers. Have you ever considered that there is no definition of what is "hard"? A person can say that he is the stronger brother, who comes home and all night, but another person in the same family group could say that the brother-fun and sexy! Triggers are all of us. Identify behaviors and characteristics which trigger.
2. objectify
In his subjective turn "I will not" objective "should not be" the answer. Instead of "He's strong and unpleasant" (subjective and critical), for example ", he speaks clearly in my house. "The behavior does not change, but the interpretation of this behavior. It's a process called reformulation, and gives us the strength to handle things more objectively.
3. If something is not working, change
Feel increases your blood pressure when his voice booming across the room screaming? Instead of reacting and shrink, she smiled. Wave across the room, point to the ginger ale and mouth: "Do you have a mine. "Then just go to another room. You have to leave the power. For real.
4. Go to your happy place
Do you have a song that you like, or a poem or mantra loans. Instead of talking to you as the person you are crazy, begin to sing something you like or repeat a favorite poem. While the brother-brother screams, buzzing (silence) from favorite song. Focus on something else and that makes you happy and feel good.
5. always good respiration
Yes, deliberately deep breathing is one of the most useful things you can do, and you probably never thought of. Of course you breathe, so what is different? Take a deep breath, comfortable and well thought out. Breathe through your nose and exhale through the mouth.
Your attention to your breathing. The mind can not focus on one of two things when you notice therefore focus on breathing to stop, how "bad" acts his brother!
Try one of these tips the next time you face a difficult year. But be prepared in advance and be prepared for them. You have the power!
about:
Beverly D. Flaxington is a US - American entrepreneur and founder of cooperation. [1] Flaxington is the author of seven books on personal and professional development, including the best-selling - understanding of others: Making the five mysteries of human behavior and your SHIFT: The five most powerful moves that you can do to get where they want to go.
